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Identifying Relationship Red Flags

We have all been deep into a relationship, went through a breakup, and then saw several red flags in hindsight – after having time to reflect upon things with a new perspective. Seeing life through the lens of experience and wisdom can be a profound thing and yield important learnings. But, what if you had the tools to reduce your chances of getting into a relationship that ultimately led to heartache and pain? What if you had the ability to better identify red flags along the way?

In this post, we examine how to identify red flags by examining the signs within yourself that things aren’t exactly as they ...

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How Can I Read the News Without Becoming Depressed or Anxious?

Girl reading the news and looking scared

Perhaps watching the nightly news is a long-standing family ritual, or you start your day by skimming the local and national headlines. If so, you have probably noticed that in the last several years, the weight of those headlines has led to feelings of paranoia, anxiety, and even depression. Especially with gun violence on the rise and regular acts of terrorism, the news is more frightening and shocking than ever.

In my work as a therapist, clients often share that they feel overwhelmed and unable to process the state of these news stories. They often cite feeling helpless and powerless over the future and unable to comprehend ...

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Part 2: 3 Strategies to Overcome Relationship Anxiety

couple on a coffee date

In Part 1 of this series, we discussed signs of relationship anxiety - overthinking, game-playing and self-sabotage - and the common experiences of people who struggle with this challenge. Here, we’ll provide a three-step process for overcoming relationship anxiety in your life. Like the desire to change any unhealthy habits in life, the first step is being committed to the process of change.

1. Recognize patterns

Oftentimes, the first step is the most difficult. If you know you struggle with relationship anxiety, understanding your personal relationship patterns is an important precursor to changing them. To start understanding your own triggers, try this exercise:

  1. Write down the last three people you have dated.
  2. Next ...

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Part 1: 3 Signs You Might be Struggling with Relationship Anxiety

Girl looking sad and confused on park bench

In my work as a psychologist, I help clients overcome past relationship trauma, understand setbacks, and assist them in clearing space and recognizing healthy new relationships in their lives. Oftentimes, these new relationships can trigger unresolved feelings or patterning that become a kind of anxiety about a new love.

If you have ever felt overly nervous, find yourself constantly analyzing your “next move” in a relationship, or found reasons to leave a partnership that was going fairly well, you might be struggling with relationship anxiety. Let’s look more closely at this phenomenon with Tom and Carrie’s situation. And, in part 2 of this post, we’ll learn ways to overcome ...

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Anxiety Decoded: When Stress and Worry Become “Normal”

Life is full of a myriad of emotions. From joy to frustration, and peace to anger, we all also experience an occasional sense of nervousness or worry. Normal times to feel this would be amidst a major life change (positive or negative), going on a first date, alongside a major commitment like a public speech or important meeting at work, or due to financial difficulties.

Some people experience mild worry or stress as activating - it motivates them to be ...

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