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Living in a digital age with endless content can be overwhelming. In my work as a Denver therapist, I often hear from clients that they’ve researched a topic related to relationships on the internet, and haven’t always received the best advice from forums or unreliable sources.

Below you’ll find a collection of top relationship resources that provide solid insight backed by research in a variety of formats.

Old-Fashioned Print Books

There is something almost therapeutic itself about holding a book and the ritual of reading. Here are some top books to consider if you want to better understand both yourself and your relationship dynamics. (Note: All can be found ...

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My Relationship Felt so “Easy” in the Beginning – What Went Wrong?

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In my work as a relationship therapist, I help clients overcome a variety of relationship challenges by helping provide insights into their experiences and strategies for overcoming common roadblocks.

A challenge I often hear about as a relationship therapist is that the beginning of a relationship felt “easy” and months – or years – later, one or both partners are now trying to understand why things are challenging as the relationship progresses. Along with that ease, the couple experienced a notable “spark” early on, accompanied by an all-consuming feeling. Some clients assume that this ease, intense attraction, and chemistry are indicators of a sustainable relationship and they continue ...

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Part 2: Partner Patterns -- What Neuroscience teaches us about Relationships

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In part one of this series, we revealed that the root of feelings and emotions is caused by chemical forces in the body. These releases of hormones are completely out of your control and become the foundation of almost all relationships -- with attraction, lust, and attachment paving the way to true relationship.

In this section, we’ll explore why we love who we love and the role of our visual system in relationship patterning.

Biologically and genetically speaking, we are predisposed to be attracted to a person with opposite genetic characteristics from ours. This primordial tendency to mate for genetic variety (e.g. women demonstrate preference to men who smell ...

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Part 1: Partner Patterns -- What Neuroscience Teaches Us About Attraction

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Butterflies in your stomach, sweaty palms, a pounding heart and a preoccupation with thoughts of your beloved are surefire signs of a new romance. Yet, what often feels like “love at first sight” or intense early chemistry is simply the result of a neurochemical cocktail released in your body.

Oftentimes, in my work as as a psychologist, I witness the confusion clients have in the early phases of a new romantic connection, and a lack of understanding the difference between the major experiences during dating: attraction, lust, and attachment. Helen Fisher and her colleagues’s (2002) research indicated that there are actually different neural systems and chemical responses ...

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The Fog of Infatuation: 5 Ways to Remain Clear During Early Relationship Bliss

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If you are reading this article, it’s likely that you recently experienced the allusive fog (Tatkin, 2016) of a new relationship. Or, perhaps you recognize a habitual pattern of unclear judgement in the early stages of a partnership.

In a related Center for Shared Insight blog post on the Honeymoon Phase of relationships, we discussed the challenges of what’s called limerence, or the early phase of love, driven primarily by novelty and chemistry. Neurochemically, surges of  dopamine, adrenaline, and oxytocin are most responsible for the the “high” of new love (Brittle, 2015). To put the effects of infatuation in prospective, studies show that the release of these chemicals mimics the ...

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