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Carrying the Emotional Labor of the Relationship

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In working with hundreds of clients, the therapists at Center for Shared Insight in Denver Colorado often hear phrases like:

“I’m overwhelmed.”

“I feel so drained.”

“I can’t keep all the details straight.”

“It’s exhausted managing it all.”

If it’s your job to manage your relationships’ details, such as the planning, scheduling, social calendar maintenance, and more, it could take a toll on you. This can especially be the case if this is your role within your family and there are kids’ schedules to consider alongside yours and your partner’s wants and needs. Here’s what to look for, and ways to cope if you primarily carry the emotional ...

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Mother's Day: Ways to Honor All Your Emotions

Mothers Day Emotions

Upon hearing the words “Mother’s Day” you may immediately think of the Hallmark version of this holiday, full of flowers, cards, moms and daughters in matching dresses, and fancy brunches. But, that’s not everyone’s experience. Mother’s Day evokes a variety of emotions and can be a very difficult day for many, depending on the circumstances of their family.

If you are struggling with fertility, loss, or disconnection from your family, it might be more like you are “getting through” this day rather than celebrating it. Recognize that this is a painful day for many people, and you are not alone.

Here are some examples of what you may be ...

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3 Steps To Take To Get Your Needs Met in a Relationship

Getting your needs met in a relationship

The success of any relationship hinges on the ability for each partner to get their needs met. This is true of a parent-child relationship, friendship, and romantic partnership. But, that criteria of a successful relationship isn’t as simple as it seems. Getting your needs met is a result of identifying, owning, understanding and communicating those needs effectively.

Here are three steps you can take to get your needs met in a relationship, based on research from Susan Pease Gadoua (2018) and our work with Denver-based clients.

Step 1: Acknowledge that you have needs

According to Susan Pease Gadoua (2018), begin by giving yourself permission to have needs. Start with ...

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Good Boundaries Start With Strong Values

‘Boundaries’ is a word we throw around casually nowadays as it becomes more mainstream. Maybe you have heard comments like “my resolution this year is to have stronger boundaries” or “better boundaries will help me find more balance in my life”. And, while these comments are true, it’s often difficult to define exactly what “good boundaries” means, especially because they are so unique to the individual.

In a previous post, we defined boundaries as imaginary lines drawn around oneself to protect both the physical and emotional self from the behavior and demands of others. Healthy boundaries are always rooted in your personal values, priorities, and needs.

In this ...

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4 Strategies to Handle Unwanted Advice as a New Mother

unwanted advice as a new mother

New motherhood is a time of radical change. From a changing body to a changing list of responsibilities to a changing sleep schedule, successfully navigating this time is about being flexible and accepting change. It’s natural to overcome the challenges that accompany this change by reaching out to peers, parents, friends and even neighbors for advice and insight. In fact, your situation is normalized when you can talk openly about the uncertainty that is characteristic of new motherhood. However, what happens when you are faced with a great deal of unwanted advice? As these conversations unfold, it’s not uncommon to be inundated by too much advice, or advice from ...

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3 Ways to Strengthen Your Relationship After Baby

Life with a new baby is undoubtedly a joyous experience. From the first giggles to the first steps, there are more memorable moments than you can count. However, as baby becomes the center of the household, it’s natural that your relationship with your partner takes a back seat. The transition to life with baby is one of the most challenging changes a couple endures and has the potential to either strengthen or negatively impact your relationship. It’s essential to continue to make time for your primary relationship despite the distraction and joy of life with a new baby. 

Here are three simple ways you can continue to foster connection ...

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Understanding and Overcoming Mom Shame

When you hear the words “mom shame” you probably think of the judgement and criticism moms have for one another. Psychology Today cites a study in which sixty-one percent of the recipients report that they have been criticized for their child-rearing decisions. While this form of mom shame and judging is highly prevalent and painful, there is another kind of personal mom shame that runs parallel to it. Personal shame, anxiety, and doubt about your own abilities, and judging yourself as a mother, are thoughts that might run rampant everyday. Overcoming this type of mom shame requires a deeper understanding of it and strategies to identify and overcome ...

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