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Carrying the Emotional Labor of the Relationship

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In working with hundreds of clients, the therapists at Center for Shared Insight in Denver Colorado often hear phrases like:

“I’m overwhelmed.”

“I feel so drained.”

“I can’t keep all the details straight.”

“It’s exhausted managing it all.”

If it’s your job to manage your relationships’ details, such as the planning, scheduling, social calendar maintenance, and more, it could take a toll on you. This can especially be the case if this is your role within your family and there are kids’ schedules to consider alongside yours and your partner’s wants and needs. Here’s what to look for, and ways to cope if you primarily carry the emotional ...

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Online Reviews: How Would They Change Your Dating Game?

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You’ve probably received feedback on many of the roles you play in your life. As a student, you likely got a report card, and as an employee, you probably had performance reviews. Yet, one of the biggest roles you play is the partner in your relationship, which comes without a formal review process. Unless you and your partner are incredibly intentional about providing one another feedback, months and years could easily go by without the opportunity to share insights and input about improving everything from communication to intimacy.

But, what if you did get a dating or relationship report card? How would that change your dating behavior? In ...

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How to talk to your partner about an open relationship

Bridging the topic of exploring an open relationship can be scary. There are dozens of reasons this path might appeal to you, from curiosity to “spicing” up your current core, romantic relationship. No matter the “why”, presenting this idea to your partner can make you feel vulnerable.

At Center for Shared Insight in Denver, Colorado, we work with a handful of clients who are interested in exploring an open relationship with their partner, and we can provide support and guidance around how to discuss this topic thoughtfully and effectively. Throughout this post, we’ll explore strategies you can use to ensure that a conversation about an open relationship is ...

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Mixed Signals: Trusting Actions Over Words

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We’ve all trusted the words of a partner and let promises of change propel the relationship forward. Especially if your love language is words of affirmation the commitments your partner makes to you are vital to building confidence in your relationship. But, how often have your partner’s actions not matched those promising words? How do these mixed signals make you feel, particularly if you have an anxious attachment type? We’ll explore the answers to these questions and more in this blog post.

Handling Mixed Messages

Misaligned words and actions can feel like mixed signals to the recipient. It’s often hard to properly decode such situations and ...

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Moving on: What to do when your relationship isn't meeting your needs

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When you enter into a relationship, you are likely optimistic that the relationship will last and are hoping for a true long-term connection. When you start to question whether the relationship will last, it might take a while to get honest with yourself. You might initially make up excuses for your partner’s behavior or the lack of overall chemistry. Overtime, you’ll come to terms with the fact that the relationship doesn’t fully meet your needs and can’t be fixed. Likely there is a lot of letting go that needs to happen individually before you feel confident sharing your feelings with your partner, and ultimately get the closure that you ...

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The Power of Pre-Marriage Couple’s Therapy

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You’re engaged! Congratulations on the decision to take your relationship to the next level. Likely, you’ve already put a tremendous amount of effort into your relationship to get it to this stage. You and your partner have probably already endured some ups and downs and ultimately decided that your connection is strong enough to make a deeper commitment.

It might feel on the surface that the hard work is done and that you’ve arrived at the place you’ve dreamed of since you’ve been a young child — ready to marry the “love of your life” and “live happily ever after”.

But, the truth is that much of the work ...

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3 Steps To Take To Get Your Needs Met in a Relationship

Getting your needs met in a relationship

The success of any relationship hinges on the ability for each partner to get their needs met. This is true of a parent-child relationship, friendship, and romantic partnership. But, that criteria of a successful relationship isn’t as simple as it seems. Getting your needs met is a result of identifying, owning, understanding and communicating those needs effectively.

Here are three steps you can take to get your needs met in a relationship, based on research from Susan Pease Gadoua (2018) and our work with Denver-based clients.

Step 1: Acknowledge that you have needs

According to Susan Pease Gadoua (2018), begin by giving yourself permission to have needs. Start with ...

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