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When you hear the words “fear of commitment” you might initially think of someone who is outwardly afraid of marriage or doesn’t want a long-term commitment in relationships. While this fear can certainly manifest like that, it can also show up as behaviors that are less obvious, and the person experiencing this fear can often mask it as something else. 

In this post, we’ll reveal four of the not-so-obvious signs that you or someone you know may be afraid of commitment and the first step you can take to overcome this fear.

Being Critical

If you find yourself always noticing what’s wrong with your partner, and being

You’ve probably received feedback on many of the roles you play in your life. As a student, you likely got a report card, and as an employee, you probably had performance reviews. Yet, one of the biggest roles you play is the partner in your relationship, which comes without a formal review process. Unless you and your partner are incredibly intentional about providing one another feedback, months and years could easily go by without the opportunity to share insights and input about improving everything from communication to intimacy.

But, what if you did get a dating or relationship report card? How would that change your dating behavior? In ...

How many times has a relationship ended in your life and you’ve commented that “there were red flags all along”? Or, how often have your friends pointed out red flags with people you are dating that you may have chosen to ignore, defend, or rationalize? You might even find yourself talking to a friend after the breakup and commenting that it is “obvious in hindsight” that your former partner wasn’t a good fit for you. 

It’s not uncommon to consciously or subconsciously ignore red flags for a variety of reasons. If you are “lying to yourself” throughout a partnership by ignoring small warnings about a partner or relationship, ...

Some topics are easy to talk with your therapist about, such as problems sleeping, or lack of a work/life balance. Others might require more vulnerability, including gender identity questions or challenges related to sex. At our therapy practice in Denver, Colorado, we encourage clients to have uncomfortable conversations with our team of specialists, including those related to sex. In this post, we’ll provide some strategies to make talking with your therapist about sex easier.

First, Do Your Research

Sex is often still seen as a “taboo” topic of conversation, which can sometimes make it challenging to bring up in therapy. Finding a therapist that is comfortable exploring and addressing ...

We’ve all trusted the words of a partner and let promises of change propel the relationship forward. Especially if your love language is words of affirmation the commitments your partner makes to you are vital to building confidence in your relationship. But, how often have your partner’s actions not matched those promising words? How do these mixed signals make you feel, particularly if you have an anxious attachment type? We’ll explore the answers to these questions and more in this blog post.

Handling Mixed Messages

Misaligned words and actions can feel like mixed signals to the recipient. It’s often hard to properly decode such situations and ...

What is a relationship role model and why is it important? In our therapy practice in Denver, Colorado, we often remind clients why it's important to identify ideal relationships to inform how they might improve their own. Having real-life examples can provide more clarity around what you want and don’t want, and help illuminate the path to get there.

Do you have a relationship role model? In this post, you’ll learn how to identify, cultivate, and utilize relationship role models to build and maintain healthy relationships, or evaluate the relationship you are in. 

Identifying Role Models

It’s possible that you have witnessed an ideal relationship that is close ...

So much of what creates fulfillment in life stems from making the right decisions. You make significant choices throughout your life as you decide your career path, whether to have kids, and who to choose as a romantic partner. It’s important to be selective and clear about your values and needs as you make any important decision about your future, especially when it comes to your primary, romantic relationship.

If you aren’t selective when choosing a partner, you’ve likely run into one of three roadblocks that result from poor selection. In this post, we’ll dive into three common outcomes of poor selection.

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