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As a Denver psychologist specializing in relationship support, the number one question I receive in my therapy sessions is “Why have I not found my life partner?” While the answer can certainly vary significantly from client to client, after a few sessions of discovering more about clients’ lives and challenges, the answer to this burning question is usually revealed in one of four categories:

Unrealistic Expectations

It’s hard to know what lasting love and healthy relationship feels like. Finding and keeping true love is a great mystery of life and is something only felt, not clearly explained in any rule book or life manual. Your previous experiences of love in your life ...

Pick your poison, Friends! We all get addicted to the feel-good high of certain habits or hobbies… but what if your drug of choice is relationships?

Everyone has something—something that helps the not-so-good times feel just a little bit better, including you.

Maybe it’s a bowl of rocky road ice cream or a glass of red wine after a challenging day at work.

Some seek exhilarating, semi-dangerous experiences to get the juices flowing and feel the thrill of tempting fate.

Others dabble in recreational drugs to temporarily escape the realities of life.

Or maybe it’s the rush of pushing your physical limits ...

Butterflies in your stomach, sweaty palms, a pounding heart and a preoccupation with thoughts of your beloved are surefire signs of a new romance. Yet, what often feels like “love at first sight” or intense early chemistry is simply the result of a neurochemical cocktail released in your body.

Oftentimes, in my work as as a psychologist, I witness the confusion clients have in the early phases of a new romantic connection, and a lack of understanding the difference between the major experiences during dating: attraction, lust, and attachment. Helen Fisher and her colleagues’s (2002) research indicated that there are actually different neural systems and chemical responses ...

Dr. Hick believes these steps will get you on the path to spring self-renewal—with sunshine, new experiences, and love for yourself, your life, and others.

You did it!

You made it through the unbearably long, cold, and short days of winter. Now it’s time to come out of hibernation mode and start the energizing springtime self-renewal process—for a happy, healthy, more love-filled spring.

Winter Slow-Down

If you are like much of the world, with winter, comes a slowing down of all things in life. Holidays redirect attention to gatherings, shopping for gifts for loved ones, and preparing for the year to end. This is followed by a long stretch ...

Spring is finally here and with that comes new life and renewed energy for life and love. As we embrace the season of renewal, spring provides an ideal backdrop for meaningful reconnection, and if you’re single, an opportunity to refresh the outlook on your love life.

In your not-so-distant past, the long Winter months made it easy to fall into stale routines. Whether you lost sight of health and fitness goals, fell out of touch with important friendships, picked up some unhealthy self-care habits, or gave up on dating to hibernate on your comfy couch -- Winter likely was a time of losing connection to what made ...

Historically, spring has been a time synonymous with new life, and a time to leave the stale energy of winter behind. It’s a time to focus again on partnership following the natural “cooling off” period of winter. As we embrace the season of renewal, spring provides an ideal backdrop for meaningful reconnection, or if single, an opportunity to refresh the outlook on your love life.

Typically, relationships have an initial 3-6 month honeymoon period in which endorphins make everything exciting and promising. This phase of a relationship is thrilling, yet not sustainable long-term. As time goes on, it takes focused intention to keep a sense of romance in ...

Valentine’s Day. Two words that can conjure up a whole host of feelings that run the spectrum from joy to dread. What’s certain is that Valentine’s Day will most definitely make  you think of one 4-letter word: LOVE.

As a Denver relationship therapist, I witness stories daily that remind me how love is the most elusive, confusing, and sought-after feeling on the planet. We have a lifelong obsession with looking for and understanding this complex experience. What could be better than uncovering how love shows up in our lives and in the lives of those closest to us by understanding unique love languages?