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Good Boundaries Start With Strong Values

‘Boundaries’ is a word we throw around casually nowadays as it becomes more mainstream. Maybe you have heard comments like “my resolution this year is to have stronger boundaries” or “better boundaries will help me find more balance in my life”. And, while these comments are true, it’s often difficult to define exactly what “good boundaries” means, especially because they are so unique to the individual.

In a previous post, we defined boundaries as imaginary lines drawn around oneself to protect both the physical and emotional self from the behavior and demands of others. Healthy boundaries are always rooted in your personal values, priorities, and needs.

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Being the Observer: A Simple Skill to Overcome Life’s Challenges

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Have you ever been in a situation in which you feel like you can’t get clarity? Maybe you are torn between two choices, or in a fog about what the best next step looks like. This might be the case in a decision around a relationship, job, or any other potential change in your life. Or, you might witness your partner, family members, and friends go through a back and forth for a long time as they are determining the right path, and struggling to remain objective about these important next steps.

Oftentimes, during these periods of transition, your thoughts are muddled with emotions and it’s hard to be ...

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4 Strategies to Handle Unwanted Advice as a New Mother

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New motherhood is a time of radical change. From a changing body to a changing list of responsibilities to a changing sleep schedule, successfully navigating this time is about being flexible and accepting change. It’s natural to overcome the challenges that accompany this change by reaching out to peers, parents, friends and even neighbors for advice and insight. In fact, your situation is normalized when you can talk openly about the uncertainty that is characteristic of new motherhood. However, what happens when you are faced with a great deal of unwanted advice? As these conversations unfold, it’s not uncommon to be inundated by too much advice, or advice from ...

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Should I Hire A Postpartum Doula?

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Postpartum can be a time of mixed emotions. While there is most likely joy surrounding your newborn baby, those positive feelings can sometimes be accompanied by feelings of overwhelm, exhaustion, and even sadness. Oftentimes, it might feel difficult to talk about some of these feelings in a society that generally views the birth of a new baby as a positive, joyous experience. While family and your partner can be great support during this time, here are some telltale signs that hiring a postpartum doula would be beneficial:

You feel depleted

It’s no doubt that the postpartum period can be very physically taxing for a woman, and even a ...

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Big Changes Start Small

Maybe you are contemplating a major life change. It could be a new job, change in relationship status, or a habit you want to overcome. No matter what you are trying to shift in your life, it’s important to recognize that change happens in phases and in small steps.

If you are struggling with change, it’s most likely due to the fact that change is challenging because you, and nearly all of us, are addicted to your patterns or the way you have been doing things. Identifying these patterns and taking small steps to alter them can help to set you up for successful large-scale change.

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Understanding and Overcoming Mom Shame

When you hear the words “mom shame” you probably think of the judgement and criticism moms have for one another. Psychology Today cites a study in which sixty-one percent of the recipients report that they have been criticized for their child-rearing decisions. While this form of mom shame and judging is highly prevalent and painful, there is another kind of personal mom shame that runs parallel to it. Personal shame, anxiety, and doubt about your own abilities, and judging yourself as a mother, are thoughts that might run rampant everyday. Overcoming this type of mom shame requires a deeper understanding of it and strategies to identify and overcome ...

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Wedding Planning: Healthy Boundaries, Happy Bride

Despite the fairytale vision that you likely had in your mind before getting engaged, planning a wedding can be one of the most stressful and emotional experiences in life. Trying to balance both family’s wish lists, blend ideas, and keep plans within budget can add pressure to any relationship. However, enduring these decisions, communicating effectively, and growing as a couple during this time, will be instrumental to long-term relationship success. It’s difficult to remember this as arguments arise over the guest list, traditions, family’s requests, and the overall vision for your wedding day, but in many ways planning a wedding prepares you for marriage.

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