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How long should I wait to have sex with my new partner?

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As relationship therapists, one question we get often from clients is how long to wait to have sex with their new partner. Sometimes there is (real or perceived) external pressure from your new partner causing you to ask this question or you might feel that having sex is a way to solidify a new relationship. Other times, having sex with your new partner might seem like a way to fast-track the partnership into your desired status.

My advice around this question isn’t always popular with clients, but it’s backed with evidence that having sex too quickly can create an environment for future relationship challenges. Below you’ll find some things ...

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Moving Beyond the Honeymoon Phase: 4 Strategies to Make Love Last

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The butterflies, the adrenaline, and untainted hope, and the joy of something new. The honeymoon phase of a relationship – usually defined as anything from the first 90 days to the first year – is the utopic beginning of romance and usually the most beloved phase of a partnership.

Interestingly, as relationship expert and Certified Gottman Couples Therapist, Zack Brittle shares,“The Honeymoon Period is a real phenomenon, but it actually has a scientific name: It’s called limerence.  Limerence is the early phase of love, driven primarily by novelty and chemistry. The joy of discovery and the thrill of forming a new relationship are accelerated with the help ...

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Spring Relationship Revival (Part I): Recapture Romance with our Renewal Plan

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Historically, spring has been a time synonymous with new life, and a time to leave the stale energy of winter behind. It’s a time to focus again on partnership following the natural “cooling off” period of winter. As we embrace the season of renewal, spring provides an ideal backdrop for meaningful reconnection, or if single, an opportunity to refresh the outlook on your love life.

Typically, relationships have an initial 3-6 month honeymoon period in which endorphins make everything exciting and promising. This phase of a relationship is thrilling, yet not sustainable long-term. As time goes on, it takes focused intention to keep a sense of romance in ...

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Dr. Hick's Guide to Fearless Living in 2015: The Secret to Life-Altering Sex - Fearlessness

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It’s about to be summer and as the days – and nights – are heating up, we’ll explore how to have fearless sex.

If you’re new to Dr. Hick’s Guide to Living Fearless in 2015, I’ll give you the scoop. This year, we’re delving into what relationships could be like – what life could be like – if lived fearlessly. To date, we’ve explored the “how-to” basics: how to love yourself, dating fearlessly, how to rise in love instead of fall, and most recently, how to take a fearless look at your relationships in order to renew them. Dr. Hick is a Denver psychologist who ...

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