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Overcoming Blame: The Other Side Of Divorce

Divorce is full of heightened emotions including blame, anger, sadness, denial, uncertainty, and sometimes even relief and excitement. Experiencing these feelings and the related phases of change are normal and necessary to get to the other side of divorce. The process is both scary and exciting as you usher out your new life and welcome in all that is possible. 

In this post, we’ll normalize feelings you might be having post-divorce and discuss how you can move through them, and reframe your thoughts, to fully move on to your new life.

The Blame Game

It’s not uncommon to mask the shame, grief, and even humiliation of divorce ...

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4 Ways to Overcome the Lingering Grief of Divorce

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While most people know that the process of divorce can be grueling and painful, it’s a common mistake to think that once the papers are signed, the suffering and grief will also come to an end. Enduring the financial, emotional, and psychological pain of separation from a partner you thought you’d spend your life with is excruciating, but it’s a whole other thing to work through the lifelong process of fully healing from devastating loss of any kind.

Maybe instead of sadness, you felt a sense of freedom and celebrated the end of your marriage with serial dating, late nights out, and extensive travel. Maybe you ...

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I’m Considering a Divorce – Now What? (Part II - What you Need to Know During Your Divorce)

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In Part I, we discussed the divorce process and how to build your professional team in order to best prepare you for what lies ahead. In Part II, we discuss what you may need to know once you find yourself in the divorce process. We cannot cover all of your possible questions here, so please reach out to me if you’d like to learn more about the legal theories involved in your specific case.

How are Child Support and Maintenance calculated?

The court relies on a set of guidelines for both child support and maintenance calculations, but does not have to follow the Guidelines in all cases. A ...

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I’m Considering a Divorce – Now What? (Part I - Preparing for the Process)

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This is part one of a two-part series.

You are at a crossroads. Maybe you never thought you’d reach this point in your marriage, or maybe you have been thinking about it for a long time. Either way, you need a place to get started. The reality of getting a divorce can be overwhelming.  However, when you simplify the concept and process into manageable parts, navigating the transition can become a little easier.

During your divorce you will need to make several key decisions on how you will approach your case, how you will treat your spouse during your divorce, what issues and “rights” are most important to you during divorce, ...

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Dating After Divorce: Are you Ready?

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Divorce can be both a heart-wrenching and liberating experience, depending on the circumstances of your dissolution. It’s often also a time of confusion, and necessitates self-reflection. No matter the details of such a separation, an intentional, directed recovery is often key to successful dating and future relationship happiness.

Too often, as a divorcee, you may feel excited about the prospect of getting out into the dating world again, or want to escape the pain by replacing the feelings with lust and romance. In my experience, rushing into your next relationship without fully working through the missteps of your divorce, will likely only prolong the inevitable and lead you to fall ...

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10 Tips for Surviving the Holidays After A Divorce

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Nothing kills holiday cheer like the fresh residue of divorce. Kristen Hick, Denver relationship and divorce therapist, walks us through moving on and making happiness a part of your new tradition.

At a time when family and friends get together to celebrate, the holiday season can be a painful reminder of what was, what will never be, and who is not here anymore.

Recovering from any sort of loss or heartache can be especially difficult around the holidays. And coping with the holidays after separation or divorce can be its own special circle of hell.

Many of my clients report that as holiday songs, decorations, and invitations start to accumulate, any post-divorce ...

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