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Identifying Your Emotional Thermometer

Emotional anger relationship

If you have ever overreacted or “blown up” in a conversation with a loved one, co-worker, parent, or even child, then the practice of tuning into your emotional thermometer would likely be a helpful one. The process of understanding your emotional continuum is especially critical if you have a tendency to spiral out of control during heated discussions and are working on ways to better manage your feelings and keep conversations with others productive during times of intensity.

It’s often a natural tendency to react to an emotionally charged situation versus respond calmly and thoughtfully. Here are steps to take that can help you identify your emotional thermometer based ...

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Three Reasons Why People Come Together in Relationship

Attraction can be a mysterious dynamic. You likely have a pattern of attraction or a “type” of person that you end up dating. Maybe your partners don’t look the same, but chances are that the reasons for the attraction are similar when you reflect on individuals you have dated.

Do opposites really attract? Do you ultimately end up dating someone like your father or mother? Are you attracted to someone you can fix, or someone who you believe can fix you? In this post, we decode three reasons why people come together in relationships, based on research from Susan Pease Gadoua (2018) and our extensive experience working with ...

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Good Boundaries Start With Strong Values

‘Boundaries’ is a word we throw around casually nowadays as it becomes more mainstream. Maybe you have heard comments like “my resolution this year is to have stronger boundaries” or “better boundaries will help me find more balance in my life”. And, while these comments are true, it’s often difficult to define exactly what “good boundaries” means, especially because they are so unique to the individual.

In a previous post, we defined boundaries as imaginary lines drawn around oneself to protect both the physical and emotional self from the behavior and demands of others. Healthy boundaries are always rooted in your personal values, priorities, and needs.

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Recognizing the needs of others during your divorce

Your marriage impacted far more people than just you and your spouse, and your divorce won’t be any different. The decision to end your marriage will have an impact on your kids, neighbors, families, and friends. It’s important to comprehend their perspective during this time in order to meet their needs and create understanding during this transition. In addition, it’s critical to be sensitive to the perspective of your spouse during this time as well, so that the process of divorce can be as smooth as possible.

Here are three groups that will be influenced by your divorce, what to expect, and how you can help ease ...

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Dating Lessons: Navigating the Stages of Relationships

Stages of Relationships

Life is full of lessons, as are relationships. Through various stages of relationships, you’ll be faced with learnings, opportunities for growth, and the ability to do things differently than you did in the past. It’s when we can use the lessons of our past to improve our future relationships that wisdom results and real progress occurs.

Relationships will go through phases as a couple moves from dating to long-term commitment. At each of these phases, there is an opportunity to let go of past patterns and choose to do things differently to help the relationship unfold with more ease and fulfillment.

In this post, we’ll examine the ...

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Why Relationships are Like Wine

Relationships are like wine

Wine is known to be good for your heart, as are relationships. In fact, scientists have concluded that people who are happily married or in long-term committed relationships actually live longer, on average, than their single friends. But that’s not where the analogy ends. Here are three truths about relationships that also important when making wine, and what you can learn from the alignment. 

Outward appearances mean so little

If you are a wine drinker, at some point in your life, you were probably lured into buying a bottle of wine because of a clever or beautiful label. Maybe that purchase was due to a funny vineyard name ...

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3 Alternatives to Divorce

If you have been struggling in your marriage and are unsure whether divorce is right for you, it’s possible that an intermediate step is more appropriate or attractive. This step may end up serving as a long-term solution for your relationship, or help you understand whether divorce is the correct outcome for your marriage. Sometimes, it may even strengthen your marriage.

When a couple is struggling, the decision to end a marriage is often approached with very black-and-white thinking, but it doesn't have to be. A conscious decision to create separation without divorce often provides more clarity and confidence in the ultimate decision you make. Based on research ...

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