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How Your Mindset Predicts Relationship Success

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The basic beliefs you have about yourself and your control over your future make up your mindset. Research performed by Stanford Psychologist Carol Dweck and summarized in Brain Picking’s recent article by Maria Popova, suggests that while this perspective may shift due to circumstances or personal variables, individuals fall in two core buckets when it comes to mindset: Fixed or Growth. Each of these mindsets has a direct impact on your relationship success and cultivating awareness of–and potentially changing–your default mindset can greatly influence the dynamics of your romantic partnerships.

Similar to attachment systems, individuals develop one of these two mindsets at a very early age due to ...

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Four Things You Must Do to Fully Heal from a Break-Up

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The devastation of having a romantic relationship come to an end – especially if you feel the choice was not yours – can be heart-wrenching.  Longer relationships may leave you with a feeling of emptiness as a former lover might have been part of your daily rituals. If your partnership was shorter, but intense and meaningful, you may have lost of a sense of hope in relationships all-around.

With marriages happening later and later and digital dating driving much of today's match-making, navigating courtship again after a breakup can be more confusing and daunting than ever. Yet, the bigger issue with jumping back into the dating game ...

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Relationship Question Answered: How do I overcome my fear of intimacy?

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Intimacy is a necessary part of any healthy relationship. While it’s most common to think of intimacy as physical closeness, intimacy takes many important forms in a healthy relationship such as emotional closeness, friendship, intellectual alignment, and attachment. A close cousin to intimacy is vulnerability, which is a willingness to put yourself at risk for heartache, rejection, or abandonment, in order to be fully in a relationship. Both of these emotions take the courage to step outside your comfort zone and don’t come easy to everyone.

Fear of intimacy shows up in many forms and for a variety of reasons; three of which we’ll discuss here.

Perceived Limitations

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3 Ways Individual Therapy Will Help Your Relationship

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When you think of therapy to help your romantic relationship, you probably imagine the classic scene with a couple sitting around with a therapist, each taking turns discussing their core problems and each telling his or her own side of the story. While that model has been the norm for decades, it may not be the most effective in helping your relationship, especially if your partner is unwilling or unmotivated to attend.

The alternative? Individual Relationship Therapy, which addresses your relationship needs and challenges independent of the influence of your partner’s perspective and helps an individual partner explore how his/her own history and experiences may be playing a ...

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I’m Considering a Divorce – Now What? (Part II - What you Need to Know During Your Divorce)

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In Part I, we discussed the divorce process and how to build your professional team in order to best prepare you for what lies ahead. In Part II, we discuss what you may need to know once you find yourself in the divorce process. We cannot cover all of your possible questions here, so please reach out to me if you’d like to learn more about the legal theories involved in your specific case.

How are Child Support and Maintenance calculated?

The court relies on a set of guidelines for both child support and maintenance calculations, but does not have to follow the Guidelines in all cases. A ...

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I’m Considering a Divorce – Now What? (Part I - Preparing for the Process)

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This is part one of a two-part series.

You are at a crossroads. Maybe you never thought you’d reach this point in your marriage, or maybe you have been thinking about it for a long time. Either way, you need a place to get started. The reality of getting a divorce can be overwhelming.  However, when you simplify the concept and process into manageable parts, navigating the transition can become a little easier.

During your divorce you will need to make several key decisions on how you will approach your case, how you will treat your spouse during your divorce, what issues and “rights” are most important to you during divorce, ...

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Why is my partner pulling away as we get more serious?

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At Center for Shared Insight, PC, we are committed to answering your most burning relationship questions. In fact, the very core mission of our practice includes sharing insight gathered from thousands of hours spent supporting, educating and guiding clients on their personal journeys of better understanding relationship dynamics.

While pulling away in a relationship is often attributed to male behavior, this can happen from either partner and is often a pattern that emerges as partnerships start to get more serious and a bigger commitment is on the table. Here are some insights to help you better understand why a romantic partner pulls away:

Fear of commitment

Especially if your ...

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