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Moving Beyond the Honeymoon Phase: 4 Strategies to Make Love Last

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The butterflies, the adrenaline, and untainted hope, and the joy of something new. The honeymoon phase of a relationship – usually defined as anything from the first 90 days to the first year – is the utopic beginning of romance and usually the most beloved phase of a partnership.

Interestingly, as relationship expert and Certified Gottman Couples Therapist, Zack Brittle shares,“The Honeymoon Period is a real phenomenon, but it actually has a scientific name: It’s called limerence.  Limerence is the early phase of love, driven primarily by novelty and chemistry. The joy of discovery and the thrill of forming a new relationship are accelerated with the help ...

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Part 2: Strategies to Maintaining Fearless, Healthy Boundaries

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Knowledge of what boundaries are, how they are learned and how fear can influence your boundary setting likely led you to the question, “So how do I set and maintain a healthy boundary?”

The first step to setting healthy boundaries is to get extremely clear on the desired boundary (refer back to Fearless Boundaries: Healthy Boundaries for Better Relationships). Ask yourself about your breaking points, obstacles and must-haves in relationships that challenge you.

As a Denver psychologist specializing in dating and relationship therapy, the most effective boundary strategy I regularly share with clients is a 4-step process:

  • Set

  • Expect Push-back

  • Uphold

  • Reinforce 

1. Set: As mentioned, setting a clear boundary ...

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Part 1: Fearless Boundaries: Healthy Boundaries for Better Relationships

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In a world of endless choices, desires, and opportunities, the practice of forming boundaries is something we don’t often consciously learn in our formative years. As an adult, you might not completely understand exactly what a boundary is, how it is established, and why it is helpful to you. Boundary-building is a relatively new skill to learn and establishing these “codes of conduct” is essential to healthy relationships and beyond.

Boundaries are imaginary lines we draw around ourselves to protect our physical and emotional self from the behavior and demands of others. Setting good boundaries requires knowing, accepting, communicating, and upholding limits. The need for such lines often comes ...

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Spring Self-Renewal: 5 Tips for a Love-Filled Spring

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Dr. Hick believes these steps will get you on the path to spring self-renewal—with sunshine, new experiences, and love for yourself, your life, and others.


You did it!

You made it through the unbearably long, cold, and short days of winter. Now it’s time to come out of hibernation mode and start the energizing springtime self-renewal process—for a happy, healthy, more love-filled spring.

Winter Slow-Down

If you are like much of the world, with winter, comes a slowing down of all things in life. Holidays redirect attention to gatherings, shopping for gifts for loved ones, and preparing for the year to end. This is followed by a long stretch ...

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Love Addiction: A Quest to Fill the Void

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Love addiction might sound like an alluring phenomenon, and definitely doesn’t immediately imply something concerning. However, while true love addiction is not readily talked about or as widely understood or discussed like other addictions, love addiction is a very real disorder that affects approximately 3% of US adults.

Love as an Addiction

Individuals who are addicted to love are both similar to and different from those who are addicted to a substance. Substance addiction involves ingesting a substance (such as drugs or alcohol); whereas, love addict’s “drug of choice” is not a substance, but rather a process involving love and/or a relationship to a person (also called a ...

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Spring Relationship Revival (Part II): Dating Renewal Plan

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Spring is finally here and with that comes new life and renewed energy for life and love. As we embrace the season of renewal, spring provides an ideal backdrop for meaningful reconnection, and if you’re single, an opportunity to refresh the outlook on your love life.

In your not-so-distant past, the long Winter months made it easy to fall into stale routines. Whether you lost sight of health and fitness goals, fell out of touch with important friendships, picked up some unhealthy self-care habits, or gave up on dating to hibernate on your comfy couch -- Winter likely was a time of losing connection to what made ...

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Spring Relationship Revival (Part I): Recapture Romance with our Renewal Plan

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Historically, spring has been a time synonymous with new life, and a time to leave the stale energy of winter behind. It’s a time to focus again on partnership following the natural “cooling off” period of winter. As we embrace the season of renewal, spring provides an ideal backdrop for meaningful reconnection, or if single, an opportunity to refresh the outlook on your love life.

Typically, relationships have an initial 3-6 month honeymoon period in which endorphins make everything exciting and promising. This phase of a relationship is thrilling, yet not sustainable long-term. As time goes on, it takes focused intention to keep a sense of romance in ...

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