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Dr. Hick's Guide to Fearless Living: The Fearless Talks That Will Transform Your Relationships

How we use our voice is often determined in childhood, but these things can change. Fearless talks can transform everything, especially your dating life.

A fearless break through in loving communication happened for a dear friend this week. She graciously allowed me to share the story of her path to transformation.

For years, “Sarah” had struggled to express her true feelings, to communicate her needs, to set boundaries in friendships, with family members, and most of all, in her dating relationships.

This difficulty plagued her for as long as she could remember. She observed others who seemed so easily able to say, “No” when they meant, “No.” Or even ...

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Dr. Hick's Guide to Fearless Living in 2015: Fearless Boundaries - How to Set Better Boundaries for

couple talking

While personal space and depth of conversation are unique to the individual, distance can hinder our ability to connect. Is it time for better boundaries? Dr. Hick, Denver relationship therapist, chimes in.

Boundaries. By now, I’m sure you’ve heard this term thrown around a fair bit. And yet, if you are like many people, you are likely still a little fuzzy on exactly what a boundary is, how it is established, and how it can be helpful to you. Furthermore, you are likely wondering what boundaries have to do with fearlessness and relationships.

Let me start by sharing two brief stories about two individuals, each on ...

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Help: I’m Not Getting Any Messages, Online Dating Isn’t Working!

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Radio silence when online dating—you’re sending messages but not receiving any replies, does this mean online dating isn’t working? No way!

So you’ve taken the plunge—the online dating plunge.

You’ve crafted a good profile. You’ve discussed the activities and interests that are meaningful to you and that you hope to find in potential mates. You’ve selected your best looking photos—a couple of yourself, some of you engaged in your favorite interests and maybe even a couple of your adorable pet or niece/nephew just for good measure.

You hit the submit button. Take a deep, sigh. And wait.

Oh, who are you kidding? You ...

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Is “Fear of Missing Out” Really Just a Fear of Commitment?

Are you on the hunt for the next thrill, date, or message? FOMO can be a fear of commitment, and Dr. Kristen Hick, Denver relationship therapist, knows how to open hearts to love again.

Greener pastures. A better fit for your “list.” A more “suitable” partner.

No matter what you call him or her, or the general idea, that “perfect fit” keeps you looking, searching and living anywhere but in the present moment and in your present relationship.

Some might say this is simply a case of your relationship skills getting honed, and you will realize that there is a better match out there for you when you are ready for it.

Or is ...

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Dr. Hick's Guide to Fearless Living in 2015: Break Free - How to Banish FOMO for Good

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Dr. Hick, Denver psychologist, shines a light on a common problem: preoccupation with everything but the present. It’s time to shift focus and enjoy this moment to the max.

We’re all guilty of it. We work, work, work our busy selves away—on the job we love, the job we hate, or the career we are trying relentlessly to create.

We work so hard and for so long it becomes almost impossible to push the pause button, to “unplug,” to focus inward, and to take in the moment.

This drive to do more, be more, capture more—which my camera and I are definitely guilty of—keeps us in a perpetual pattern of ...

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Dr. Hick's Guide to Fearless Living in 2015: The Secret to Life-Altering Sex - Fearlessness

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It’s about to be summer and as the days – and nights – are heating up, we’ll explore how to have fearless sex.

If you’re new to Dr. Hick’s Guide to Living Fearless in 2015, I’ll give you the scoop. This year, we’re delving into what relationships could be like – what life could be like – if lived fearlessly. To date, we’ve explored the “how-to” basics: how to love yourself, dating fearlessly, how to rise in love instead of fall, and most recently, how to take a fearless look at your relationships in order to renew them. Dr. Hick is a Denver psychologist who ...

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Yoga of Dating Part V: How Pratyahara Will Transform Your Dating From the Inside Out

Yoga of Dating

Do any of the following descriptions remind you of your own dating experiences? 

“A cobb salad, some yummy ingredients, but a whole lot of lettuce underneath.” “Horrifying.”
“An assembly line of the same ole’ thing in a slightly different package.”  

Yes, unfortunately, these are real-world depictions of singles’ experiences out in the dating world.  Dating is full of funny stories, romantic gestures, and in some cases, a whole lot of frustration. As a Denver therapist, I coach clients through a wide array of dating experiences.

If you are like the people I encounter in my work, you are looking for a better way, a healthier way, and a more mindful way to approach ...

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