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The Yoga of Dating (Part IV): Pranayama

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Is dating as easy as breathing? Hardly. Dr. Kristen Hick discusses how in order to date well and create healthy relationships, one must master Pranayama.

Yoga

In yoga, an almost 2000-year-old physical, emotional and spiritual health practice, breathing is an essential component. In fact, it is one of eight essential sutras of yoga.

In past blogs, I have made use of the first three sutras of yoga—involving how to treat others (yama), how to treat oneself (niyama), and how to practice the postures (asana)—to demonstrate how these same philosophies and disciplines can be extremely helpful in navigating the potentially loaded minefield we call modern dating.

Yoga & Dating

Dating can be hard. ...

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Handling the Holidays: Bringing Your New Love Home

Ah, the first trip home with a new love. Before you back out to avoid dealing with your wacky family, check out Dr. Hick’s tips for handling the holidays.

I was catching up with a dear friend last week, and she brought up a great (and timely) topic: bringing her new beau home for the holidays for the first time. As she discussed her excitement and concerns, it became apparent that Lisa did not lack for “Bah-Humbug” stories from holidays past.

She wondered, given her family members (picture an assortment of movie family characters, mild dysfunction and a pension for telling embarrassing stories as the second glass of wine is ...

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5 Reasons Your Relationships Keep Failing

If you’re like many of the individuals I help, you’re wondering why your relationships never seem to work out as happily as you intend. Certainly there are relationships that can surprise you in some very unsavory ways, no matter how much foresight you have or how long you’ve been together (think mid-life crisis gone very bad).

However, my experience is that for those who suffer again and again in relationships, there are several key mistakes that they are making…repeatedly. Some of these relationship mistakes are easily avoidable in the beginning, whereas others are mistakes that one makes after getting a little too comfortable.

I have listed 5 relationship mistakes that are ...

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Lessons From the Mountain: What Hiking Teaches Us About Relationships

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"There’s no doubt that some relationships will end, but some potentially good ones require you to push past whatever is going on to get to the other side."

As is true for so many who find their way to Colorado, I fell in love with the Rocky Mountains from day one. They are magnificent, beautiful, offer a Utopian escape from city life and above all else, teach you things about yourself that you never would have imagined.

When I started hiking 14-ers (14,000 ft. mountains) a little over a year ago, I had virtually no experience hiking, let alone hiking at such a high elevation. I was invited on a two-day backpacking ...

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The Yoga of Dating (Part III): Asana – Date Worthy Postures

Yoga of Dating

To grow in a relationship with another, you must also grow in multiple directions and stay balanced.

This is advice I regularly share with clients as a Denver relationship therapist and dating coach.

Asana refers to the physical practice that most people think of when they think of yoga, but, as you’ll see, it also provides a helpful model for thinking about how we lean in (or out) of new relationships.

The word “asana” originally referred to the art of sitting still, and since has been applied to positioning and holding oneself in various positions. Doing so is designed to bring forth meditation, enhance flexibility of body and mind and cultivate well-being in ...

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The Relationship Tango: Time to Waltz Instead?

relationship tango

The lesson that will transform your relationships forever.

Last week I sat with my friend “Sarah,” as she described how hopeless and exhausted she’s felt lately, specifically in regards to her newly-blossoming relationship with a man named “Matt.” 

Sarah thinks the world of Matt—he’s charming, successful, generous and (may I say) easy on the eyes. Yet despite Matt’s attractive qualities, Sarah’s not happy and not acting like herself.

Over the past few months, I’ve seen Sarah cancel plans with friends (to spend time with Matt) and change her style of clothing. Even her personality seems different.

It took me minute to put all the pieces together, but this actually seems to be a familiar ...

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How to Prepare Yourself for the Perfect Relationship

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Create your perfect relationship through making yourself the perfect partner.

What is “Perfect” Anyway?

First let’s start by qualifying what I mean by a “perfect” relationship. As a Denver relationship psychologist, I regularly witness people envisioning a “perfect” relationship as being one that mirrors the fantasy created by Hollywood and advertising executives to help you buy in to what they are selling: “true love,” a love that conquers all.   

You know the drill. Boy meets girl; girl is reluctant; guy pursues despite staggering obstacles; girl falls in love; hey, presto! Guy whisks her away to happily ever after (Note: this is not only outdated, it also assumes heterosexuality and leaves out ...

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