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3 Steps To Take To Get Your Needs Met in a Relationship

Getting your needs met in a relationship

The success of any relationship hinges on the ability for each partner to get their needs met. This is true of a parent-child relationship, friendship, and romantic partnership. But, that criteria of a successful relationship isn’t as simple as it seems. Getting your needs met is a result of identifying, owning, understanding and communicating those needs effectively.

Here are three steps you can take to get your needs met in a relationship, based on research from Susan Pease Gadoua (2018) and our work with Denver-based clients.

Step 1: Acknowledge that you have needs

According to Susan Pease Gadoua (2018), begin by giving yourself permission to have needs. Start with ...

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How and When to Choose a Couple’s Therapist

Choosing a couple's therapist

Nearly every couple in a long-term relationship goes through times that are challenging, stretches in which they might question the relationship, and periods of frustration with one another. These ebbs and flows are normal and, while challenging, can also be opportunities for growth and learning.

Too often, when couples are going through these challenging times, marked by arguments and feelings of disconnection, it’s easy for them to want to give up on the relationship rather than diving into a conversation and understanding the root causes of disagreements and friction.

Involving a couple’s therapist, as a neutral party who can provide insight and guidance, can be highly valuable in ...

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Good For You & Good To You: Getting Clear on Your Relationship

Getting-Clear-on-Your-Relationship

Relationships can often be a roller coaster. No matter if you are in the honeymoon phase of a new relationship or have been married for years, all partnerships will go through good times and rough patches. Especially if you are dating or in a new relationship, it might be hard to understand the underlying reasons for the ups and downs or moments of connection alongside days of friction. Not only are you trying to understand new relationship dynamics, you’re also trying to learn about the triggers, reactions, and personality of another person during these early stages of a relationship.

This isn’t an easy feat and it’s often met ...

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Managing the emotions of a divorce

managing the emotions of a divorce

Divorce is challenging in a variety of ways. You might question whether divorce is the right choice for you, you likely fear the financial impact of divorce, and it’s hard not to notice the emotional roller coaster you are likely experiencing. It’s this, the emotional aspect, that is the most difficult for partners who are separating, according to research from Susan Pease Gadoua (2018). In this post, we help you understand the feelings you are experiencing, based on our work with Denver-based clients, and what can be done to overcome the emotional highs and lows that accompany a divorce.

Filtered Emotions

Susan Pease Gadoua shared in her 2018 ...

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Identifying Your Emotional Thermometer

Emotional anger relationship

If you have ever overreacted or “blown up” in a conversation with a loved one, co-worker, parent, or even child, then the practice of tuning into your emotional thermometer would likely be a helpful one. The process of understanding your emotional continuum is especially critical if you have a tendency to spiral out of control during heated discussions and are working on ways to better manage your feelings and keep conversations with others productive during times of intensity.

It’s often a natural tendency to react to an emotionally charged situation versus respond calmly and thoughtfully. Here are steps to take that can help you identify your emotional thermometer based ...

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Three Reasons Why People Come Together in Relationship

Attraction can be a mysterious dynamic. You likely have a pattern of attraction or a “type” of person that you end up dating. Maybe your partners don’t look the same, but chances are that the reasons for the attraction are similar when you reflect on individuals you have dated.

Do opposites really attract? Do you ultimately end up dating someone like your father or mother? Are you attracted to someone you can fix, or someone who you believe can fix you? In this post, we decode three reasons why people come together in relationships, based on research from Susan Pease Gadoua (2018) and our extensive experience working with ...

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Good Boundaries Start With Strong Values

‘Boundaries’ is a word we throw around casually nowadays as it becomes more mainstream. Maybe you have heard comments like “my resolution this year is to have stronger boundaries” or “better boundaries will help me find more balance in my life”. And, while these comments are true, it’s often difficult to define exactly what “good boundaries” means, especially because they are so unique to the individual.

In a previous post, we defined boundaries as imaginary lines drawn around oneself to protect both the physical and emotional self from the behavior and demands of others. Healthy boundaries are always rooted in your personal values, priorities, and needs.

In this ...

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