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Exposing Old Wounds to Give Love its Best Chance

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Sometimes current issues are rooted deep in the past—a past we must honor to heal from. Dr. Hick, Denver relationship therapist, helps us in exposing old wounds to find a happier today.

Some of you were lucky enough to have had a pretty “normal” childhood. What is “normal” these days, you ask? Well I don’t mean picture-perfect, Leave It To Beaver style, that’s for sure.

In fact, having a childhood like this might render you less resilient to losses, transitions, and upsets later in life. If you never experienced pain as a child, or had someone help you through your pain, it may be more difficult to cope with or navigate trouble as an adult.

What is Normal?

“Normal” by today’s standards (just so you’re up on current shrink-think) is a childhood in which you had a consistent parent(s) or other caregivers who were present and responded to your needs, experiences, and feelings in a warm, empathic way on a fairly regular basis.

Even in a “normal” childhood, you may have had some painful, challenging, and adverse experiences. If you had a caregiver there to help you through those nasty times, however, your experience likely aided in your resiliency as an adult, as well as helped you develop a model and skills crucial for healthy adult relationships.

Some caregivers are not able to provide such reparative interactions during difficult times—perhaps because they are absent, inconsistently available, or preoccupied with other relationships, substances, or their own needs and experiences. Continue Reading...

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