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Forgiveness is not a line you cross, it’s a road you take

In a recent interview on the Oprah show with Wade Robson and James Safechuck related to the film, Leaving Neverland, Safechuck told Oprah, "Forgiveness is not a line that you cross—it's a road that you take." This profound statement has applications far beyond this film and suggests that forgiveness and healing are a choice, and possible for everyone.

In this post, we’ll discuss what that means within your life and how you can apply this mindset to any situation that requires forgiveness. Below are some considerations that will help you choose the road of forgiveness.

Give Yourself Time

You live in a world of accelerated timelines. It takes ...

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Why Do I Struggle with Accepting Healthy Relationships?

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Dating can be exhausting. It’s not only time-consuming and expensive, it can also be difficult to meet someone you really connect with and trust. And, when you do, you may struggle with truly accepting a potentially fulfilling relationship. Instead, you might find yourself, repeatedly, in partnerships that are unhealthy or even dramatic. This is a common behavior in dating, and it might cause you to question “why do I struggle with accepting healthy relationships into my life”?

In this blog post, we’ll examine how and why you respond to healthy relationships with resistance and ultimately withdraw. And, we’ll look into how you can become more aware of your ...

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How Can I Read the News Without Becoming Depressed or Anxious?

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Perhaps watching the nightly news is a long-standing family ritual, or you start your day by skimming the local and national headlines. If so, you have probably noticed that in the last several years, the weight of those headlines has led to feelings of paranoia, anxiety, and even depression. Especially with gun violence on the rise and regular acts of terrorism, the news is more frightening and shocking than ever.

In my work as a therapist, clients often share that they feel overwhelmed and unable to process the state of these news stories. They often cite feeling helpless and powerless over the future and unable to comprehend ...

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How A Painful Past Can Get in the Way of Your Current Relationship - And How to Fix It

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A painful past has a gravity all its own, and it can pull us down if we’re not careful. It sometimes seems old memories and old patterns assert themselves in the present. This is especially true in romantic relationships. Often a painful past gives us a lens to view that world that is distrustful of others, scared of vulnerability, and highly prioritizes control in relationships. ...

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Why Do I Keep Attracting the Same Partner? How Past Trauma Attracts Relationship Drama

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Do you ever feel like you are attracted to, date, or even marry the same type of people over and over again? Do all of your relationships fall into a similar pattern and end due to the same dynamics? Does it feel like you attract or invite this relational pattern into your life, perhaps without consciously being aware of it?

If you experience these situations, you may be like many others I work with, who unconsciously – and compulsively – repeat relational patterns over and over again, hoping to achieve a different outcome. But why does this occur, you ask? Read on to better understand the origin of ...

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Understanding Your Tendency to be Attracted to Drama in Relationships

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The Relationship Roller Coaster, as I like to call it, is filled with emotional, exciting, and at times, frustrating ups and downs, twists and turns, and thrills. The drama and unpredictability of roller coasters is what gives you the excitement and surge of neurochemicals in your brain, and the very thing that gets you hooked and getting back in line for more “fun.”

If you are aware of your tendency to enjoy the ups and downs of a dramatic or somewhat chaotic relationship, you are familiar with the Relationship Roller Coaster effect. What you may be less aware of is how that desire to get back in line ...

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Relationship Question Answered: How do I overcome my fear of intimacy?

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Intimacy is a necessary part of any healthy relationship. While it’s most common to think of intimacy as physical closeness, intimacy takes many important forms in a healthy relationship such as emotional closeness, friendship, intellectual alignment, and attachment. A close cousin to intimacy is vulnerability, which is a willingness to put yourself at risk for heartache, rejection, or abandonment, in order to be fully in a relationship. Both of these emotions take the courage to step outside your comfort zone and don’t come easy to everyone.

Fear of intimacy shows up in many forms and for a variety of reasons; three of which we’ll discuss here.

Perceived Limitations

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