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Handling the Holidays: Bringing Your New Love Home

November 25, 2014
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Posted By: Kristen Hick, Psy.D.

Ah, the first trip home with a new love. Before you back out to avoid dealing with your wacky family, check out Dr. Hick’s tips for handling the holidays.

I was catching up with a dear friend last week, and she brought up a great (and timely) topic: bringing her new beau home for the holidays for the first time. As she discussed her excitement and concerns, it became apparent that Lisa did not lack for “Bah-Humbug” stories from holidays past.

She wondered, given her family members (picture an assortment of movie family characters, mild dysfunction and a pension for telling embarrassing stories as the second glass of wine is poured for Aunt Suzie) and the unflattering family dynamics (for example, the anxiety and passive aggressiveness that inevitably surface when she gets around her family) could she and her new love survive—let alone enjoy—this upcoming trip home to meet the family?

As Lisa described to me the funny and not-so-funny stories of bringing past loves home, she turned to me for guidance on how to make this introduction of a newcomer more enjoyable than holidays past.

Preparation is key. 

A little preparation goes a long way in either a short or extended trips to see your family.

Give Your Love a Heads Up: If you haven’t done so already, you’ll want to start by discussing how you and your partner’s holidays traditionally go.  Each of you will want to share: READ MORE

http://www.meetmindful.com/handling-the-holidays-bringing-your-new-love-home/

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