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Losing Yourself in a Relationship

Think back to your last break-up...Did you feel devastatingly empty, depressed, lost or wonder how you would move forward without this person in your life? If so, you might be prone to losing yourself in a relationship. If you tend to merge with your current partner, assume their likes and dislikes, and take on his or her interests, after the relationship ends, you most likely feel a deep loss of your sense of self.

You might wonder why you do this, how you can maintain your life with and without a partner and may be just starting to recognize a pattern of attaching that doesn’t feel helpful, healthy or ...

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Decoding Dating Behaviors

decoding dating behaviors

If you are dating, chances are you’ve been perplexed, confused, or flat out surprised by the behavior of someone you have dated. You might recall restless nights or long conversations with friends talking through how unexpected events unfolded in a relationship that went south.

It’s not uncommon at all for there to be a misalignment in what you might be experiencing versus what your partner is experiencing in the very same relationship. This can sometimes lead to an unexpected and heartbreaking break-up or ongoing, confusing dynamics. Successful dating begins with accurately decoding dating behavior, recognizing common patterns, and overcoming the confusion that often accompanies dating.

Ask yourself ...

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Overcoming Challenges: 3 Perspectives to Empower You

Heraclitus, the great Greek philosopher, is credited with the famous phrase “change is the only constant in life”. While this is undoubtedly true, challenge is also another constant. Life is rarely without a challenge — whether that be minor or catastrophic. It’s how we face and overcome challenge that leads to character. While it’s inevitable that life will hand you lemons and you’ll be asked to make lemonade more times than you can count, it’s how you deal with challenge that really matters.

In this post, we outline three important perspectives to keep in mind as you encounter obstacles in your life.

Choose your thoughts carefully

It’s so easy, ...

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Overcoming Blame: The Other Side Of Divorce

Divorce is full of heightened emotions including blame, anger, sadness, denial, uncertainty, and sometimes even relief and excitement. Experiencing these feelings and the related phases of change are normal and necessary to get to the other side of divorce. The process is both scary and exciting as you usher out your new life and welcome in all that is possible. 

In this post, we’ll normalize feelings you might be having post-divorce and discuss how you can move through them, and reframe your thoughts, to fully move on to your new life.

The Blame Game

It’s not uncommon to mask the shame, grief, and even humiliation of divorce ...

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Is It Time to Leave My Relationship?

Time to Leave My Relationship

No matter if you’ve been in a relationship for a few months or a few years, it not uncommon to come to a crossroads and wonder if you should leave the relationship, take a “break”, or start seeing other people again. Maybe the chemistry is fading, your partner’s habits and quirks are wearing on you, or you question whether you can legitimately see a long-term future together. A common time to ask this question is after the honeymoon phase in a new relationship, but this uncertainty can come up at any point, even after years together.

This decision can be one of the most pivotal in your ...

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Miscarriage: How Reframing Your Thoughts Can be Key to Healing

reframing thoughts about miscarriage

There are very few situations in life as heartbreaking as miscarriage. Likely, you and your partner were overjoyed with the news of a new baby and immediately started planning the details of your expanding family. You most likely shared the news with close friends and family and the announcement was met with congratulatory messages and excitement.

 

The news of a miscarriage might feel unbearable, especially for mom, as there can be a sense ...

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Dating Lessons from The Bachelorette

lessons from the bachelorette

Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you’ve probably heard of The Bachelorette. This reality television dating show was originally a spin-off of The Bachelor and it features an eligible single woman (aka The Bachelorette) who chooses a husband among 25 bachelors. Throughout the season, dating and relationship dynamics, including drama, conflict, and hurt feelings, unfold - much to the casting directors’ delight - that provide insight into the cast and characters. While this show might be a way to “veg out” on a weeknight, a lot can be learned by viewing the way the selection process through the lens of attachment theory.

Many of the dynamics of ...

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