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Rethinking How You Evaluate a New Partner

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You meet someone new, whether that be online or through a mutual friend, and you hit it off. The early fog of infatuation is thick and it feels fun and exciting to learn about someone new. There is immediate attraction, both physical and psychological, and you start to size this new potential partner up against a “list” of necessary qualities you might have pre-established in your head.

Can you relate? Evaluating a new romantic interest begins the moment you first communicate and rarely ends anytime soon after. Just like infatuation, it’s easy to like someone in the beginning because of surface level things -- the kind of ...

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Deciding to Stay Home With Baby: 3 Things to Consider

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One of the most challenging decisions as a new parent is whether or not to go back to work and leave your new bundle of joy in the care of someone else. Deciding to stay home with baby is one of the first, significant parenting decisions you’ll face, and there are several factors to consider -- some of which you might not immediately think about. In this post, we’ll look at three factors to consider when making the decision to stay home with baby postpartum: Finances, fulfillment, and the overall impact on your family.

Finances

If you are fortunate enough to be questioning whether you should stay home ...

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Why does my partner act distant?

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Most likely, you have experienced a partner acting distant or disengaged in a relationship. This might look like long response times between communication, not opening up about his/her experience, or at it’s extreme, the silent treatment. This can feel uncomfortable for almost any partner, but if this feels dysregulating to you, it’s most likely due to a tendency towards anxiety within relationships and in some cases, and an anxious attachment style.

In this blog post, we’ll look at the role of attachment in distancing behaviors, ways to effectively balance needs and expectations around these behaviors, and how a fear of intimacy might play into these challenging dynamics.

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Why Do I Struggle with Accepting Healthy Relationships?

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Dating can be exhausting. It’s not only time-consuming and expensive, it can also be difficult to meet someone you really connect with and trust. And, when you do, you may struggle with truly accepting a potentially fulfilling relationship. Instead, you might find yourself, repeatedly, in partnerships that are unhealthy or even dramatic. This is a common behavior in dating, and it might cause you to question “why do I struggle with accepting healthy relationships into my life”?

In this blog post, we’ll examine how and why you respond to healthy relationships with resistance and ultimately withdraw. And, we’ll look into how you can become more aware of your ...

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How Do I Know if it's "The One"?: Embracing Uncertainty in Relationships

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When you first start dating someone, you are most likely open-minded. You look forward to learning more about his or her interests, work, and family. You listen intently to your date’s stories and dreams. You probably find yourself imagining what the future could look like with this potential partner.

It’s easy to quickly move from that open-minded receptive space to one of making premature decisions about whether the relationship is going to work. It’s easy to be very  black-and-white in evaluating the relationship too early in the getting-to-know you process. Human beings crave certainty and being without it can be stressful, so much so that it pressures you into ...

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How can I trust again after a painful break-up?

If you are reading this post, you’ve most likely recently been through a breakup or experienced some level of heartache. It’s inevitable that everyone will go through this experience in their life, so remember that you are not alone. Once you’ve worked through the break-up and recognized the lessons, you might be thinking about dating again. And, as you start to meet new people, it’s probably apparent that being vulnerable and willing to trust after a challenging relationship might be harder than you think. In this post, we’ll discuss the stages of grief and letting go, and recommend some ways to rebuild trust and tune into red flags ...

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Big Changes Start Small

Maybe you are contemplating a major life change. It could be a new job, change in relationship status, or a habit you want to overcome. No matter what you are trying to shift in your life, it’s important to recognize that change happens in phases and in small steps.

If you are struggling with change, it’s most likely due to the fact that change is challenging because you, and nearly all of us, are addicted to your patterns or the way you have been doing things. Identifying these patterns and taking small steps to alter them can help to set you up for successful large-scale change.

To make ...

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