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How long should I wait to have sex with my new partner?

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As relationship therapists, one question we get often from clients is how long to wait to have sex with their new partner. Sometimes there is (real or perceived) external pressure from your new partner causing you to ask this question or you might feel that having sex is a way to solidify a new relationship. Other times, having sex with your new partner might seem like a way to fast-track the partnership into your desired status.

My advice around this question isn’t always popular with clients, but it’s backed with evidence that having sex too quickly can create an environment for future relationship challenges. Below you’ll find some things ...

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Being the Observer: A Simple Skill to Overcome Life’s Challenges

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Have you ever been in a situation in which you feel like you can’t get clarity? Maybe you are torn between two choices, or in a fog about what the best next step looks like. This might be the case in a decision around a relationship, job, or any other potential change in your life. Or, you might witness your partner, family members, and friends go through a back and forth for a long time as they are determining the right path, and struggling to remain objective about these important next steps.

Oftentimes, during these periods of transition, your thoughts are muddled with emotions and it’s hard to be ...

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4 Strategies to Handle Unwanted Advice as a New Mother

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New motherhood is a time of radical change. From a changing body to a changing list of responsibilities to a changing sleep schedule, successfully navigating this time is about being flexible and accepting change. It’s natural to overcome the challenges that accompany this change by reaching out to peers, parents, friends and even neighbors for advice and insight. In fact, your situation is normalized when you can talk openly about the uncertainty that is characteristic of new motherhood. However, what happens when you are faced with a great deal of unwanted advice? As these conversations unfold, it’s not uncommon to be inundated by too much advice, or advice from ...

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The Dating Game: Keeping an Abundance Mindset

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If you are single and dating, you might feel like there isn’t anyone out there for you. Maybe you think “all the good women or guys are taken” or you tend to settle because you are afraid you’ll be alone forever. Keeping an abundance mindset, even in times of scarcity is important in dating and in life. An abundance mindset includes seeing all the potential in the world and how it applies to life and acknowledging that you deserve the best in life. An abundance mindset is the opposite as seeing the world as scarce and limited.

Here are four ways to make an abundance mindset a regular practice.

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Should I Hire A Postpartum Doula?

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Postpartum can be a time of mixed emotions. While there is most likely joy surrounding your newborn baby, those positive feelings can sometimes be accompanied by feelings of overwhelm, exhaustion, and even sadness. Oftentimes, it might feel difficult to talk about some of these feelings in a society that generally views the birth of a new baby as a positive, joyous experience. While family and your partner can be great support during this time, here are some telltale signs that hiring a postpartum doula would be beneficial:

You feel depleted

It’s no doubt that the postpartum period can be very physically taxing for a woman, and even a ...

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Rethinking How You Evaluate a New Partner

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You meet someone new, whether that be online or through a mutual friend, and you hit it off. The early fog of infatuation is thick and it feels fun and exciting to learn about someone new. There is immediate attraction, both physical and psychological, and you start to size this new potential partner up against a “list” of necessary qualities you might have pre-established in your head.

Can you relate? Evaluating a new romantic interest begins the moment you first communicate and rarely ends anytime soon after. Just like infatuation, it’s easy to like someone in the beginning because of surface level things -- the kind of ...

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Deciding to Stay Home With Baby: 3 Things to Consider

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One of the most challenging decisions as a new parent is whether or not to go back to work and leave your new bundle of joy in the care of someone else. Deciding to stay home with baby is one of the first, significant parenting decisions you’ll face, and there are several factors to consider -- some of which you might not immediately think about. In this post, we’ll look at three factors to consider when making the decision to stay home with baby postpartum: Finances, fulfillment, and the overall impact on your family.

Finances

If you are fortunate enough to be questioning whether you should stay home ...

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