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How to Prepare Yourself for the Perfect Relationship

September 16, 2014
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Posted By: Kristen Hick, Psy.D.
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Create your perfect relationship through making yourself the perfect partner.

What is “Perfect” Anyway?

First let’s start by qualifying what I mean by a “perfect” relationship. As a Denver relationship psychologist, I regularly witness people envisioning a “perfect” relationship as being one that mirrors the fantasy created by Hollywood and advertising executives to help you buy in to what they are selling: “true love,” a love that conquers all.   

You know the drill. Boy meets girl; girl is reluctant; guy pursues despite staggering obstacles; girl falls in love; hey, presto! Guy whisks her away to happily ever after (Note: this is not only outdated, it also assumes heterosexuality and leaves out a large percentage of those who are seeking love. That’s a whole other article in itself).

Other love seekers imagine a “perfect” relationship as that of their parents, or perhaps, the exact opposite of their parents, whatever that might look like.

I imagine that you have invested considerable time and effort deconstructing this image of a “perfect” relationship, whatever the source of that “perfect” image was. You have likely also taken time to reconstruct what your perfect relationship looks like. And if you have done any of this, you have likely arrived at the understanding that while there is no “perfect” relationship, maybe, just maybe, there is someone who is perfect for you—your eccentricities, your weirdness, and your flaws—the whole delightful package.

This is step one in preparing yourself for the perfect relationship: realizing what your “perfect” is, (for now, anyway) while also Read More... 

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