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How Dating Changes: 20s, 30s & Beyond

February 8, 2016
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Posted By: Kristen Hick, Psy.D.
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There’s no getting around it. As we age, dating changes. Instead of lamenting the loss of your 20s mentality, lets celebrate why this is actually good news.

Contrary to your waistline, hang-over recovery time, and grown-up expenses likely increasing in your 30s, the time your relationships last have unfortunately (or fortunately) shortened.

Ever think to yourself or hear your friends say, “My relationships don’t seem to last as long as they used to. Two or three months and then *poof* it’s over. I don’t understand. I remember dating for years in my 20s. Has dating changed that much?”

The short answer is “Yes, it has.” Dating in your 30s is wildly different than dating in your 20s.

Dating in Your 20s

You were young, focused on making your way after college, meeting new and exciting people and building a career. If you happened to meet a sexy-smart someone at a party, bar, or friend’s gathering, you delved right into the deep end of romance.

Dating in your 20s was about the chemistry you shared, the fun you had, and how close you lived to each other—how easy it was to date them. If red flags presented themselves, you probably figured that you were young, or that it wasn’t all that important, or that they would change.

As long as the feel-good feelings and fun continued, you likely stayed in the relationshipfor far longer than you have experienced more recently.

So what happened?

The Change

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