Nothing kills holiday cheer like the fresh residue of divorce. Kristen Hick, Denver relationship and divorce therapist, walks us through moving on and making happiness a part of your new tradition.
At a time when family and friends get together to celebrate, the holiday season can be a painful reminder of what was, what will never be, and who is not here anymore.
Recovering from any sort of loss or heartache can be especially difficult around the holidays. And coping with the holidays after separation or divorce can be its own special circle of hell.
Many of my clients report that as holiday songs, decorations, and invitations start to accumulate, any post-divorce peace they thought they were feeling starts to dissipate; as the pain of the loss resurfaces, it feels like a giant setback.
The truth is, this is hard, incredibly hard. Experiencing the regret, loss, hurt and pain is normal at certain intense times of the year, especially anniversaries and holidays. It may feel like “going backwards,” but with these tips, you can stay on track.
10 Tips for Post-Divorce Holiday Survival
1) Validate Your Difficulty
The holidays are harder right now. Trying to convince yourself otherwise (or that you shouldn’t feel the way you do) will only make the feelings more intense. Do yourself a favor and validate that this may be difficult, maybe even really difficult. But also tell yourself that you can and will get through it. Like I tell my clients, it will be difficult, but not impossible. Continue Reading...
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