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The Yoga of Dating (Part II): The Five Niyamas

September 11, 2014
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Posted By: Kristen Hick, Psy.D.
A couple doing yoga poses on the beach

Niyamas of Yoga and Dating

The five niyamas outline the principles in which how we should treat ourselves. 

Remember what I said about wanting a set of rules to guide dating experiences? Not only would it benefit you to adhere to the five yamas (how to treat others), but to date well, you need to be a good date. To do so, it is helpful to be in right mental space to date. 

The Five Niyamas of Dating

1. Saucha

Purity. What is the first thing people typically do to prepare for a date? You got it—most people get their hair cut, nails done and pick out an outfit that will best flatter their assets. Don’t get me wrong, showing up with horrific body odor and in your comfy pajamas will not help your case. But, it’s vital to get your head in the “game” of dating by doing work on your spirit first.

Observing Saucha means two things. First, Saucha refers to looking beyond one’s impure bodily form, which gets played out by attending more to physical attraction and physical intimacy, than focusing on the attraction of two souls.

Saucha also means that you take more time to prepare your mind and spirit than your body. Purifying yourself of troublesome habits and unhealthy emotions will help you become open to attracting the right kind of partner.

2. Samtosha 

Contentment. If I were to ask anyone reading this piece at this very moment, ...Read More

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