Center for Shared Insight, PC

The Relationship Tango: Time to Waltz Instead?

September 24, 2014
Posted By: Kristen Hick, Psy.D.
relationship tango

The lesson that will transform your relationships forever.

Last week I sat with my friend “Sarah,” as she described how hopeless and exhausted she’s felt lately, specifically in regards to her newly-blossoming relationship with a man named “Matt.” 

Sarah thinks the world of Matt—he’s charming, successful, generous and (may I say) easy on the eyes. Yet despite Matt’s attractive qualities, Sarah’s not happy and not acting like herself.

Over the past few months, I’ve seen Sarah cancel plans with friends (to spend time with Matt) and change her style of clothing. Even her personality seems different.

It took me minute to put all the pieces together, but this actually seems to be a familiar pattern for Sarah when she starts to date someone—she’s doing a dance, and a frantic one at that.

The Relationship Dance

As a Denver area relationship therapist and dating psychologist, I see several different types of relationship dances that affect the way people conduct themselves within relationships.

Some dances don’t begin at all because the person tends to sit against the wall of life to protect him/herself, usually from potential hurt.

Some dances start slow, are intimate, and involve thoughtful, well-coordinated moves—a gentle push and pull across the dance floor. These partners have chosen each other for a dynamic waltz, perhaps for a lifetime.

Other dances (like Sarah’s) could be compared to a tango. They are intense, passionate and involve a longing to dance that is so strong, so all-consuming, that all else—friends, work, self-care—disappears into the background as… Read More

Subscribe to our monthly newsletter below and get your free copy of our ebook to discover how fearlessness can transform your life, love, and relationships.

Download Fearless Living and Loving Today

Related Blog Posts
May 31, 2021
Defending the Inch: Divorce and Narcissism

You have likely heard the expression “if you give an inch, they’ll take a mile”. This saying, which translates to the idea that if you give someone a little power or freedom, they will try and get a whole lot more, applies to so many situations in life.

At Center for Shared Insight in Denver, Colorado, we often hear this expression during breakups or separations from partners with narcissistic tendencies. It’s more important than ever to “defend the inch” rather than give an inch as relationships come to ...

June 23, 2020
Full Summit Divorce Recovery: The Reality of Long-Term Healing

If you are going through a divorce, it might feel like it’s an event, and you likely believe that there will be a clear before and after once your papers are signed or your former partner moves out. Yet, if you’ve gone through a divorce several years ago, you might now realize that the letting go and healing in a divorce can be a long and sometimes triggering process.

At Center for Shared Insight, in Denver Colorado, we often compare divorce to climbing a mountain, where there ...

If you have difficulty using our website, please email us or call us at (720) 644-6698
View the ADA Accessibility Statement
This website is designed for general information only. The information presented on this site should not be construed to be formal psychological or mental health advice or treatment nor the formation of a therapist-client relationship.
CSIP UPDATE - Offering Online Therapy sessions (to COLORADO residents) during Covid-19.
Our therapists are here to help you during this uncertain time. We know you and others are trying to do your part to social distance due to Covid-19, which is why we are happy to provide online therapy sessions through our secure video platform. We are here to talk with you about how we can meet your therapy needs. 
Contact us today to learn more!