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The Stories We Tell Ourselves: Change The Story, Change Your Relationships

January 12, 2016
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Posted By: Kristen Hick, Psy.D.
Girl in woods alone

If you want a brighter future in life (and dating!) start by looking inward. The stories we tell ourselves impact everything… and we do mean everything.


The stories we tell ourselves are powerful, so powerful that they have the power to change the course of our future. Find out how to harness this power to change the course of your dating and relationships in 2016 and future years.

“I know Adam is not calling me back because I text him back too quickly, he must think I am too needy. I say all the wrong things. I never should have talked to him about meeting my friends so soon. I hate this feeling!”

“Man, I’m never going to get a return message. I keep putting myself out there, and nothing happens. They must think I am unattractive. Online dating is a waste of my time.”

“I’m sick of going on dates and it never goes anywhere. There’s no one out there for me. I am going to end up alone.”

“I’ve been divorced, no one will want me now.”

“I’ve been alone this long, there must be something wrong with me.”

“I keep putting myself out there, but nothing ever seems to work in my favor. I guess I am not worthy of love.”

Sound familiar? I bet at least one of these stories hits a little too close to home. These are but a few very common stories I hear clients tell themselves all the time.

The thing is, they are just stories.

Our stories carry great power to shape and influence what actually happens in your life and how you feel about it. continue reading...

https://www.meetmindful.com/the-stories-we-tell-ourselves/

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