The Yoga of Dating (Part III): Asana – Date Worthy Postures
To grow in a relationship with another, you must also grow in multiple directions and stay balanced.
This is advice I regularly share with clients as a Denver relationship therapist.
Asana refers to the physical practice that most people think of when they think of yoga, but, as you’ll see, it also provides a helpful model for thinking about how we lean in (or out) of new relationships.
The word “asana” originally referred to the art of sitting still, and since has been applied to positioning and holding oneself in various positions. Doing so is designed to bring forth meditation, enhance flexibility of body and mind and cultivate well-being in the yogi.
Sitting still? Holding a position? Sounds easy, right? Well, not when you’re sitting still in a particular position for great lengths of time–that requires both physical and mental endurance. Being able to hold the posture requires you to push past the discomfort until you become steady and comfortable.
So, how do yoga postures relate to dating? Let’s take a look.
Pushing Through Discomfort
From our first contact with a new person, most of us will experience some level of discomfort. This usually takes the form of nervousness, mild fears, anticipation or anxiety. This is normal in most cases. But if you let the physical and mental discomfort control your actions and you shy away (from challenging positions) or opt out (fall out of the pose), you’ll never know the strength that comes with pushing through the discomfort.
Yoga teachers often talk about “working or playing with the edge.” It means to find that sweet spot between too little and too much discomfort. Read more...
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