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Recognizing the needs of others during your divorce

Your marriage impacted far more people than just you and your spouse, and your divorce won’t be any different. The decision to end your marriage will have an impact on your kids, neighbors, families, and friends. It’s important to comprehend their perspective during this time in order to meet their needs and create understanding during this transition. In addition, it’s critical to be sensitive to the perspective of your spouse during this time as well, so that the process of divorce can be as smooth as possible.

Here are three groups that will be influenced by your divorce, what to expect, and how you can help ease ...

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3 Alternatives to Divorce

If you have been struggling in your marriage and are unsure whether divorce is right for you, it’s possible that an intermediate step is more appropriate or attractive. This step may end up serving as a long-term solution for your relationship, or help you understand whether divorce is the correct outcome for your marriage. Sometimes, it may even strengthen your marriage.

When a couple is struggling, the decision to end a marriage is often approached with very black-and-white thinking, but it doesn't have to be. A conscious decision to create separation without divorce often provides more clarity and confidence in the ultimate decision you make. Based on research ...

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Overcoming Blame: The Other Side Of Divorce

Divorce is full of heightened emotions including blame, anger, sadness, denial, uncertainty, and sometimes even relief and excitement. Experiencing these feelings and the related phases of change are normal and necessary to get to the other side of divorce. The process is both scary and exciting as you usher out your new life and welcome in all that is possible. 

In this post, we’ll normalize feelings you might be having post-divorce and discuss how you can move through them, and reframe your thoughts, to fully move on to your new life.

The Blame Game

It’s not uncommon to mask the shame, grief, and even humiliation of divorce ...

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4 Ways to Overcome the Lingering Grief of Divorce

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While most people know that the process of divorce can be grueling and painful, it’s a common mistake to think that once the papers are signed, the suffering and grief will also come to an end. Enduring the financial, emotional, and psychological pain of separation from a partner you thought you’d spend your life with is excruciating, but it’s a whole other thing to work through the lifelong process of fully healing from devastating loss of any kind.

Maybe instead of sadness, you felt a sense of freedom and celebrated the end of your marriage with serial dating, late nights out, and extensive travel. Maybe you ...

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Relationship Question Answered: When Should I Introduce My Kids to My New Partner?

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Relationships can be challenging to navigate. When you add kids into the mix, they quickly become downright complex. Understanding the right time to introduce your kids to your significant other, and potentially meet his/her kids as well, is a very personal decision and one that shouldn’t be taken lightly. While there is no hard and fast rule about when this should occur, here are some important considerations as you navigate the dynamics of this important introduction.

Kids must remain #1

If introducing your kids to your new partner might result in them feeling like they are secondary, or take too much attention away from them, consider waiting. Oftentimes, single ...

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I’m Considering a Divorce – Now What? (Part II - What you Need to Know During Your Divorce)

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In Part I, we discussed the divorce process and how to build your professional team in order to best prepare you for what lies ahead. In Part II, we discuss what you may need to know once you find yourself in the divorce process. We cannot cover all of your possible questions here, so please reach out to me if you’d like to learn more about the legal theories involved in your specific case.

How are Child Support and Maintenance calculated?

The court relies on a set of guidelines for both child support and maintenance calculations, but does not have to follow the Guidelines in all cases. A ...

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I’m Considering a Divorce – Now What? (Part I - Preparing for the Process)

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This is part one of a two-part series.

You are at a crossroads. Maybe you never thought you’d reach this point in your marriage, or maybe you have been thinking about it for a long time. Either way, you need a place to get started. The reality of getting a divorce can be overwhelming.  However, when you simplify the concept and process into manageable parts, navigating the transition can become a little easier.

During your divorce you will need to make several key decisions on how you will approach your case, how you will treat your spouse during your divorce, what issues and “rights” are most important to you during divorce, ...

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