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Help: I’m Not Getting Any Messages, Online Dating Isn’t Working!

August 12, 2015
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Posted By: Kristen Hick, Psy.D.
Man checking his dating messages

Radio silence when online dating—you’re sending messages but not receiving any replies, does this mean online dating isn’t working? No way!

So you’ve taken the plunge—the online dating plunge.

You’ve crafted a good profile. You’ve discussed the activities and interests that are meaningful to you and that you hope to find in potential mates. You’ve selected your best looking photos—a couple of yourself, some of you engaged in your favorite interests and maybe even a couple of your adorable pet or niece/nephew just for good measure.

You hit the submit button. Take a deep, sigh. And wait.

Oh, who are you kidding? You didn’t wait! You started browsing others’ profiles for what seemed like hours. This is the fun part.

You saw a few profiles that really stood out to you and thought, “I will give it a go and send him/her a message.” The next day comes and you send a few more, and send a few more every day for a week or so.

You are excited about the profiles that seem to fit what you are looking for. You think, “Could this really be?! There are still single people out there who seem pretty “normal,” and are interested in the same things as me!” You feel hopeful about what lies ahead.

And then… silence.

It starts to hit you, you haven’t heard back from any of these exciting, seemingly-perfect matches. You think, “But, how could this be?” Your ego starts screaming, maybe panicking. It feels hurt, rejected and hopeless about ever finding love.

And then the “fun part” seems like a distant mirage to your heart.

Believe it or not, most people have felt this roller coaster of excitement and also felt let down if they’ve been giving online dating a solid chance. This is the part that your friends and family, who all urged you to try online dating, didn’t tell you about—what to do when no one responds to your messages. I hear this concern often from clients in my practice as a Denver relationship therapist and dating coach.

Be Patient

Remember the old adage of, “Good things come to those who wait”? I know, I cringe just thinking Continue Reading...

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